Back to basics

This poor old blog feels very neglected right now and it makes me sad that it’s in hibernation, or possibly that it’s been cryogenically frozen in the hope that one day, someone might have an inkling how to bring it back to life.

I’ve been suffering from a bit of writer’s block, which combined with the common problem of a lack of brain space and time, isn’t conducive to the most scintillating of blog posts.

Delving a little deeper into the reasons behind my writer’s block, I think I’ve become a little disenchanted with blogging, and got hung up on wanting to write for you, the reader, rather than for myself. Back in 2009, the idea behind this blog, before I had any conception of the fantastic community blogging would introduce to me, was to use this space an online diary to preserve my own memories and to share them with family and friends. I wanted to chart the milestones and the minutiae of life with Ez and Fonz. I wanted to have a means of marking when they first slept through the night, started crawling, took their first steps, said their names for the first time. Most of all, I wanted to remember, driven by an all-consuming, crushing fear that I would forget these amazing and yet so fleeting moments in an important time in my life.

But I’ve become so worried about what people might or might not like to read that a lot of the posts that this blog was meant to provide a happy and welcoming home for have gone unwritten in fear of boring the reader. And I think, in order to fall back in love with this little place on the web, I must remember my original aims when it was born. Hopefully it will help me find my mojo, and I’ll reclaim my blog for me.

And I won’t be pretending to be anything but me. If that’s dull, so be it. If it’s self-absorbed, so be it. My life isn’t full of drama, it’s not full of glamour, it’s not full of genius. But it’s my life, and do you know what? I kind of like it.

26 comments to Back to basics

  • perfect. I quite like being a voyeur!

  • Don’t worry I think a lot of us have been guilty of writing for our audience rather than ourselves at one point or another. I certainly have and I’ve found that the moment I stopped, it became so much easier to write. It’s like in ‘real life’ – we should always be ourselves and let people like us (or our blogs) for who we are!!

    I look forward to hearing about your day to day milestones!!

  • You know what, as far as I’m concerned the most interesting blogs are the ones that are written from the heart and written by the blogger for themselves. I think that’s the beauty of reading a blog over reading a magazine. You feel like you are being let into a little piece of that person and that’s far more exciting. I shall look forward to reading more from you soon xxx

  • Good for you Heather. I’m there with you on that. I was thinking the exact same thing the other day, the blog was supposed to be a place to record those memories in all their minutae glory. But after 2 years my blogging mojo got a bit lost too. But I’m back to writing the stuff that matters to me and the memories I want to keep.

    Anyway your blog is very far from dull xx

  • Mamabearuk

    Yours was one of the first blogs I discovered and what I love so much about yours and others are the normal day to day posts and the reason for that is because whatever you’ve written about I’m learning from as I know we shall be going through it soon enough. That said, I recently started my own blog and I haven’t written much simply because I keep having confidence issues every time I draft a post and as yet have had no feedback so I am beginning to see how tricky it can be. Looking forward to more posts about your two. I’ve missed them x

    • Heather

      Thanks so much for such a positive and supportive comment. I didn’t realise you’d started a blog so I’ll head over later for a read. x

  • Well said… and I’ll always be checking in no matter what :)

    I’ve been guilty of the same, but decided at the beginning of the year to write for me… I’ve got quite a few reviews that need writing up but I keep putting them off :$

    • Heather

      I am going to be extremely selective when it comes to reviews. It’s got to be something that totally rocks my world for me to write about it I think.

      Same goes for me. Your blog will be one I always visit. x

  • Yay! That’s perfect. Just what I’d like to read xxx

  • Sounds perfect – write what you want and enjoy doing it, no point in it otherwise I reckon

  • I am a dedicated reader, my favourite posts of yours are always stories about the twins x x

  • Orla Quirke

    I love your blog. My twins are a couple of months younger and I love catching up with what your are up to and then find mine do it a couple of months later. It is like seeing into the future!

    • Heather

      Thanks so much Orla. I love that you read it for its twin stuff. Our best twin friends are two months older than Ez and Fonz and we love seeing them for exactly the same reason – it’s like a glimpse into the future. And it’s great to pick up advice about the next stage as well. Thanks for sticking with me, and I will try to write a bit more regularly for you!

  • This is exactly what I loved about your blog so I will love reading more about Ez & Fonz.

  • Karen

    Just to second Orla, I have boy/girl twins the same age and have loved reading about such similar experiences. It’s a real treat and the only blog I read regularly.

  • This is exactly what I write my blog for. I realise its probably quite boring for people if they don’t actually know me and therefore I don’t get that many readers but I started it as a sort of diary/record before I knew anything about the whole blogging community! I do like going back and reading about when Freyja was little or Theo was little. And I hope they will enjoy it one day too, though I guess eventually they won’t want me to write about them!

    Anyway, I do enjoy reading blogs that are about people’s daily lives, the ups and downs, the milestones etc.

    • Heather

      When I think about it, the blogs I really enjoy reading are the ones about people’s daily lives. I guess because I can really relate, and because I love getting to know people through their blogs.

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